My husband and I had the chance to rent the movie Fireproof last night and I’ve found myself reflecting on it this afternoon. Since the Christian Church is in the season of Lent preparing for Easter, I often find myself thinking about life and it’s purpose.
If you’re not familiar with the movie, the plot centers around a couple whose marriage has crumbled after seven years of neglect, poor communication and messed-up priorities. Faced with the looming reality of divorce, the husband decides to try a 40 day challenge called the “Love Dare” before going to his attorney to dissolve the marriage. What ensues is a journey of self reflection, anger, disappointment and brokenness, that ultimately leads to a transformation of his soul, and then marriage. We thought that it was a really encouraging movie, especially for people who know how easy it is to let the passions of marriage drift into the mediocrity that often leads to divorce. This movie offers a clear message of hope for those who feel hopeless, and a theme of healing for the broken-hearted.
It is one of the more compelling scenes that I have found my thoughts lingering on today. The husband has been following the “Love Dare” and each day he is making incremental changes of behaviors towards his wife. Unfortunately, the wife has lost all of her trust in him and is totally rejecting all of his overtures. Dismayed and angry, the husband cries out to his dad with the question “How do you love someone who is unlovable?” Why would you love someone who rejects you at every turn, again and again spitting in your face, greeting every act of kindness and sacrifice with a cold shoulder. How do you love someone who doesn’t even care if you exist. And why would you? He is ready to give up on his marriage and is struggling to see the point of trying when it doesn’t seem to make any difference.
Yet, the bible says in the book of Romans “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” While we were ignoring Him, rejecting Him, disobeying Him, too tired for Him ’cause the clocks changed this morning, God sent his Son to die for us. He allowed his most precious child to be killed on our behalf (John 3:16) in a crazy, no-holds-barred attempt to woo us.
So, why love the unlovable?
Perhaps it’s because we are the ones who are not deserving of it, but were loved anyway.
For more on the movie, go here.